Five Ways to Help Friends who Self Harm

                         I've been incognito for a while but high school has gotten increasingly overwhelming and challenging. It goes to say I did enroll in a program that is equally challenging and rewarding but WOW has the time has flown, and teenage life become more complex. First off I want to thank Blogger for being my blogger site since I was in the 6th grade. It truly is amazing and has been an amazing (inconsistent) journey but that's not the point. 

                        High school definitely has opened opportunities to meet friends from all aspects and walks of life, if you're willing enough. And that includes some friends who may or may not have a tendency to self-harm. This isn't a guide or a how-to deal with your friends or even expert advice on what to do but simply some suggestions to take the time and TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. 

              So to BEGIN. . .

1.) BE SENSITIVE

I seriously mean this!! That friend has trusted you enough to share their pain. However don't take over their burden but be there for them to support and guide them to healing. Listen to them and keep your word. You don't have to cry when they cry but if you give them your shoulder to cry on, it's worth more than any advice.

2.) URGE THEM TO TALK TO A TRUSTED ADULT

This can be extremely difficult for fear or being hated and so forth but remember, you will be helping them get the help that they deserve. Talking to parents can be intimidating or even cause overreactions so understand their household situation and reactions. Be careful at all times though to not be used by adults.

3.) UNDERSTAND THAT SOME PEOPLE WON'T STOP

DO NOT burn yourself out and waste your energy thinking you can change them and neglect yourself in order to do so. This will impact you and your friend negatively and would do more harm than good. 

4.) STAY HOPEFUL AND POSITIVE. BELIEVE THAT ONE DAY THEY'LL BET BETTER

Never be a negative Nancy no matter the circumstances. You don't have to be happy all the time because we are human and have other emotions. Just because your friend may have a "worse" situation, never downplay your own feelings. You are strong enough through your never ending encouragement. 

5.) ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR FEELINGS, YOU'RE IMPORTANT TO YOURSELF, YOUR FAMILY AND YOUR FRIENDS

I can't stress this enough... All that you do is great enough. You are there for your friend and are an amazing person for that. But don't forget to check on yourself and don't allow negative thoughts to come to take over your mind. You have to be a strong person to do this and if you too self-harm. Never forget how worthy you are no matter what that little voice says back at you. 

 Often times with dealing with those with self harm, you'll tend to forget about yourself and put all your energy into saving them and stopping them. You may even feel like you're there to listen to them but that no one is there to listen to you but never sweep your pain or hurt under the rug. And ESPECIALLY don't blow up on your friend who self harms, if you need to get your feelings out mutually talk. That's what friends are for. Friendship is never a one way street.

 If you are feeling depressed or suicidal in any way 

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

Call 1-800-273-8255

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Check out my YouTube Channel Gozi G so you can see some of my short films. My most prized one would be Victimaled as it ties into the theme of my blog. Make sure to check it out!

Actresses/Actors/Extras I NEED YOU!!!

So as some people know I enjoy reading and writing a lot! 
Maybe a little too much but that's A OKAY!

 I currently am working on a short film through New Mantle Pictures, a Christian production team, and I am super excited. 

This will be my first short film of this stature since I usually make short videos of funny or serious material so I'm asking for everyone's support. 

It is greatly needed and appreciated. 

Now the name of the short film is "His Stained Multiple Names" and it focuses on problems teenagers still face today, anorexia, self-harm and molestation, but from the viewpoint of a teenage boy.

This film was created to break down stereotypes and give hope to the hopeless while showing that God's love succeeds all no matter what your situation is or who you are.

 I wanted to offer a raw form of how anorexia, molestation and self-harm affects young people today for the reason that I have experienced 2 out of 3 of the things I'm speaking on. 
It's tiring to see the same cycle repeating itself when in reality it can stop with any of us because we have to power to break away from it. 

Crucial isn't a strong enough word to delineate the need for this message to get out because if it only helps a mouse get some cheese, I can rest knowing it helped somebody. 

I actively serve in my community in hope that I can help a child, an adult or an animal have a better day than they did yesterday because of the understanding of what it's like to go through certain situation in my fifteen years of living.

Top 13 Under-Rated Instagram Accounts (That YOU Should Check Out)

1.) @THE_CORSETEDBEAUTY

For those who love beautiful, extravagant gowns ranging from the Victorian period to the Edwardian period  the_corsetedbeauty is your go-to account for all things refined and beautiful with constant updates so you don't miss your vintage fashion fix this under-rated instagram account should be your number one stop.

2.) @ROYALSOFTHEPAST          
If you're a history buff and have a knack especially for Royals this account is a must have. With beautiful colorization mostly edited by the owner this account get extra bonus point of awesomeness. Updated frequently you can never get enough of the familiar past royals like the Romanov's to really interesting bits of royals that are incredibly "under shined".














3.) @KATBERTINA
If you love jewelry modern and vintage @Katbertina is your girl.This account has lovely rare and unique pieces that can't be beat with style and originality.  You won't only get to feast your eyes upon these precious pieces but in the caption is usually the designer and a detailed description of what the jewelry has to offer.







4.) @TREASUREGARLAND
Another great jewelry account @treasuregarland is a wonderful account filled with sentimental and intricate pieces that makes your heart scream with joy. The owner of this account really pours her heart out with the pieces she collects and displays and it's surprisingly refreshing and relaxing to see.

5.) @CIRCA1700
If you want to be wowed with a tap on a photo here's your account. This page always has unique jewelry that is undeniably want-able! With every scroll you fall more and more in love with each piece and will surprise yourself when you find out you liked every photo. As you see in the photo every now and then this account strays away from strictly jewelry and adds variety to their pictures.














6.) @ANNI22K                        Abstract art is a favorite of mine and this account has an array of it! All hand-painted and expressive this account has it done right.With bright plus dull grungy strokes of paint these pieces have you right where they wanted you: captivated. This account is definitely for the art lover/enthusiast in us all.














7.) @BEADYGIRL
For those who love bold fashion statements and being the one that stands out from the crowd this account is a definite inspiration of what everyone should do which is following their hearts. Miss Golden truly has a golden heart and a closet worth stealing from. From her curly red rad hair do to her amazing platform shoes what's not to love about her fashion choices!

8.) @ARTHISTORYREGULAR
Amazing isn't the word for the amount of dedication or hard-work  put into this account. The extensive research and description of each post leaves you in awe. With pieces from Jean Fouquet to Frida Kahlo every art type is covered even the regular appearance of sculptures and pottery.













9.) @HISTORY_FANATIC
Another account for the history buff this page has a variety of history heroes and battles that has you ahead of your history class. This page is always fun to check out just to see if you can remember your facts or just to know some cool facts about important events in history.
















10.) @HEROES_OF_HISTORY
The great thing about this account that it leaves all biases alone and get down to the nitty-gritty which is always fun to do. This page also just doesn't stick to great (or horrible) world leaders but branches out to musicians, scientist and humanitarians showing there's a hero in everyone no matter how small there deed is.

11.) @ASH_IP1982 

Cool shots of nature and the randomness of life this account is the ideal account for every day aesthetic pleasures. This page is a must follow for those who love photography and the owner is always open to suggestions or simple complements though the photos are far more than simple. 

12.) @KATESNIKON

This is one account that you definitely won't regret following. With a variety of cool young and free shots you can have fun with the nice ambiance. Not only that if you live in the Tampa Bay Area in Florida you can get yourself "shot" of course not literally but by a talented photographer.

13.) @PHUNKY_TOWN 

A down right amazing self-taught make up artist the lovely looks created by Ms. Rusk are absolutely STUNNING!!  And pretty simple but if I tried to re-create them myself I would end up looking like a sea monster from some where. Anyways this account is hands down fantastic and pretty darn fun to scroll and like through.

Well I personally enjoy all these accounts and then some, while I have not been asked to make this post about these accounts by the owners of these pages I took the time to do it myself and I really hope that you guys check them out and give them a follow. And always have a great day!

Cambodia 2016

I'm planning on going to Cambodia as a sweet 16 birthday present*Woot Woot* anyways once there I will be volunteering at a care center or orphanage! I am absolutely excited BUT ( a very big but) I need all the help I can get. I decided to get a head start on preparations as well so I decided top set up an gofundme account to help alleviate the stress on my parents. Currently I'm not old enough to get a job but when 15 hits and I find a job I will save some money for spending, some for college and some for Cambodia and future volunteering projects. I find great pleasure in volunteering my time and caring for others, I can do it 24hrs and never tire of the smiles I see everyday. I volunteer at MOSI the Museum of Science and Industry and it makes me elated to see the happiness of children and adults alike satisfied. SO if you would like to help me go to Cambodia 2016 donate at  http://www.gofundme.com/alap7c

The Art Of Erasing

You might be confused on the whole title of this post but one thing it definitely has to do with is Iraq. Iraq has demonstrated the art of erasing almost flawlessly. I just would never understand how a country would want to eradicate all aspects of Christ, all aspects of history. I just would never understand how president Obama pushed gay rights' on anti-gay Africa yet won't push religious freedom in Iraq. I just won't understand how the pope has access to $200,000,000 annually yet all he says is let's pray for our Christian brothers and sisters. Does that even make sense? I'm tired of nobody knowing what's going on. Is it not our duty as American citizen or just citizens in general be aware and well informed on what is going on around us?!?!?!? It's sickening knowing that this is happening to other Christians yet here in America the Christians have gotten comfortable and compromising enough to not fight for what's right. Not even just Christians but citizens everywhere!!!! Have we gotten so comfortable and I guess you can say arrogant that we've turned a blind

eye to what is going in foreign countries? There are so many questions in my head that are still unanswered and it's not a good feeling. Yes your prayers are truly needed but what about finances, shelters, true God-given support!!!!! HELLOOO PEOPPLEEE!!!!!!!!! THERE ARE MANY DYING FOR SOMETHING 

YOU WOULDN'T EVEN DIE FOR!!!!!!!!!! I don't even think I would!!! 

Could you imagine the thoughts, the fear of actually dying for your beliefs? I'm pretty sure if most of us were faced with the option to Convert or to Die, majority will convert to save their own head. Look to Daniel 3:22  Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego  did not bow to the idol yet stayed loyal to God. If they can form an uprising to uproot Iraqi Christians surely we can lead an uprising ourselves.

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How awesome is it to be able to go home to your wife?

 Aren't you blessed that you haven't been killed for being a Christian? 





At least your child has not been killed for being a Christian.

How bad do we really have it as Christians in America?

BAGHDAD IRAQ-As I was scrolling through the Yahoo! homepage I seen something that caught my eye, something that is a chilling reminder of how great I have it here being a Christian in America. Islamic militants have been instilling fear into Christians in Iraq.On Thursday via loud speakers Christians were told bluntly to give up Jesus Christ and convert to Islam and pay a religion levy, or death. Thousands chose to fled abandoning centuries worth of Christian history behind like the Chaldean, Assyrian and Armenian churches. I wish I knew about this sooner than I did. Iraq had about 1 million Christians in 2003 it is said that the percentage of Christians dropped as much as 50%. It is believed that around 450,000 Christians are still standing. This makes me want to scream at the top of my lungs "Reverend Al Sharpton I understand you being out spoken and controversial for African American injustice and civil rights but what about doing the same for Jesus Christ?"

"When the Islamic State people took over Mosul weeks ago, they were nice to us at first and they used to knock our door and tell us that they mean no harm to the Christians in Mosul and they even gave us a mobile number just in case we are offended by anybody," Sahir Yahya, a Christian and government employee from Mosul, said Saturday. "This changed two days ago. The Islamic State people revealed their true savage nature and intention." 

Just 3 hours ago MSNBC posted about how Iraq is going into a downward spiral of chaos and destruction... Let me just stop there and insert a little side note... I want to know how many Americans know about what is happening around them and how many American Christians are praying for our Iraqi brothers and sisters?Neighborhoods are being ghettoized AND sealed off!!!! Is it just me or is it a flashback to the Holocaust except way quicker and with out some other factors too but too many close ones as well. So as brothers and sisters in Christ lets lift our Iraqi brothers and sisters in prayer.

The side notes are talking about the bombings that killed 27 people and why I put "Strict laws based off ideals"  it's because of the Islamic terrorist/militia covering advertisements with women faces on them. 

Evers, E. (2014). Time is running out for Iraq as nation spirals into chaos. [Blog] MSNBC. Available at: http://www.msnbc.com/msnbc/time-running-out-iraq [Accessed 20 Jul. 2014].

Cia.gov, (2014). The World Factbook. [online] Available at: https://www.cia.gov/library/publications/the-world-factbook/geos/iz.html [Accessed 21 Jul. 2014].

Rasheed, A. and Fick, M. (2014). Ancient Christian population of Mosul flees Islamic State. [online] Yahoo News. Available at: http://news.yahoo.com/ancient-christian-population-mosul-flees-islamic-state-181327322.html [Accessed 21 Jul. 2014].

Usatoday.com, (2014). Under threat, Iraq's Christians flee city of Mosul. [online] Available at: http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/world/2014/07/19/under-threat-iraqs-christians-flee-city-of-mosul/12893939/ [Accessed 21 Jul. 2014].